The aim of this paper is to explore femininity ideals associated with being Finnish and Swedish and what impact these ideals have on first and second generation Finnish immigrants residing in Sweden. Further it is explored how masculinity ideals associated with Finnishness and prejudice against the two nationalities shape the women’s identities. This is done with an intersectional perspective and understood through theories of respectability and critical femininity studies. Interviews conducted with four women, two born in Finland and two born in Sweden, are analyzed with the help of discursive psychology, focusing on how they perceive themselves and others. The results show that first and second generation Finnish women relate to these ideals differently. First generation Finnish women are more likely to idealize Finnish femininity ideals, whereas second generation Finnish women are more affected by Swedish femininity ideals. The analysis also shows that the women were more likely to discuss ideals associated with Finnishness during the interviews, the Finnish ideals being understood as differing from the Swedish norm.