The purpose of this essay is to explore how educators are supposed to prioritize their work at the preschool so that all children are listened to and the conditions necessary for kids to dare to express their feelings and thoughts are in place. How is the relationship important for the child's learning? How do I become a committed educator who knows how to interpret and prioritize my work so it benefits children's learning? I am developing these questions in two parts in my following text. Firstly I am writing about why it is important that we who work as pedagogues meet the child on the child’s own terms. In this part I am discussing security, closeness and distance between child and pedagogue and what that relationship might mean for child development. Then I turn to how to prioritize in order to be the best pedagogue for the benefit of the child's learning. My method is to reflect and question the knowledge I acquired during my work at the preschool. Together with various theories such as related theory, relationship skills and philosopher John Dewey, I have tried to have a discussion. In the text, I use two events from my work that illustrates the problem. With these as a foundation, I am discussing various opposed concept pairs such as control – initiative and their importance to be able to explore my problem of how to interpret the curriculum and prioritize my work. I have come to the conclusion that if we are to meet all people in a democratic and equal way, we ourselves need to some extent adapt to the one we face. The quality of the meeting between teacher and child affects whether the child will dare to express its thoughts and feelings. When teachers assume the child's thoughts and development, we can easily see the curriculum and the child's learning in a holistic perspective. The child finds it easier to learn new things when we as teachers assume the child's own thoughts. The relationship between child and teacher is important for the child's learning. In order to be capable of meeting these goals teachers are required to have an emotional maturity and development and the need to develop throughout life. We educators need to be better able to discuss and raise issues about how we handle our own emotions at work and what skills we need to be able to achieve these objectives. It can help us become a "bubbly enthusiast" who likes to work as a preschool teacher's, and finds the work developing and fun.