The schools have problems with conflicts and mobbing. One way to deal with this is to focus on the importance of life skills “SET- Social emotional training”. SET is a program that encourages student’s self-awareness, that is, the understanding students have about themselves and how he or she can relate to it and to others. This study aims to examine if life skills in school contribute to student’s ability to reflect and deal with conflicts. The main research questions are:

1. How can life skills, and specifically the SET program help students to reflect about themselves and others in the group?   
2. In which way can the SET-program help students to reflect and deal with conflicts?
3. How can reflection and conflict management using the SET method affect student’s action in school? What are the limitations/ difficulties?

The study is a qualitative research based on observation, group interviews with four students and a teacher in 5th grade, in a school south of Stockholm. The theoretical framework emphasises Vygotskij’s description of the relationship between thoughts and feelings and how this affects our action and behavior.

The results of the study show that life skills help students to improve their self-awareness by reflecting on their emotions and thoughts. By repeating concepts, students are helped to train their thought and process emotions during lesson time. The study reach the conclusion that life skills/SET help the student to learn something new about themselves and others in their environment. Life skills/SET helps the student to understand changes and manage them by focusing on how to gain new experience of these changes.