The pedagogoues at a kindergarten has an obligation to give all the children the same opportunity to develop their abilities and interests without being limited by gender-rolls. Our studies purpose is to investigate how the kindergartens activities are planned in a norm-critical perspective. The study describes how three kindergarten pedagogues works with gender, children’s influence, children’s participation and what kind of approach the pedagogues have with the both sexes during gatherings. We have in this study interviewed three kindergarten pedagogues about what they think of gender, influence and participation and also how they use the kindergarten curriculum when they plan gatherings with the children. The result shows us that it is harder to be equal if a pedagogue is stressed or under a lot of pressure, for example if the colleagues are sick and the pedagogues have to handle a lot of children at the same time. We have also observed that it is hard to avoid gender-rolls even if all the pedagogue-colleagues are participation during a gathering, due to the fact that people use to act different around girls and boys.